Life can be messy… In relationships, conflict is inevitable — especially in marriage. We can’t avoid it, but we CAN choose to be proactive about setting guidelines to make our fights as productive as possible.We’re sharing the five rules for fighting that we use to move from heated conflict to healthy resolution.
Navigating this Episode:
02:11 – Rule #1: Know Your Fighting Style
07:53 – How to communicate at the beginning of conflict
09:54 – Why it’s important to understand your spouse’s conflict style
11:01 – Rule #2: Don’t Leave the House
12:50 – Leaving the house during an argument sends these signals
14:08 – The alternative to leaving the house during conflict
14:36 – The “off-limits” word
18:20 – Rule #3: Never Say “Never” or “Always”
20:57 – The “Crazy Cycle”
21:34 – Rule #4: No Name Calling
23:24 – The power of our spouse’s words
26:35 – Why it’s important to talk about these rules in advance
27:00 – Rule #5: Don’t Involve Other People
30:05 – How confirmation bias can affect conflict
31:40 – The right type of person to go to for wise counsel for your marriage
Resources from this Episode:
- Dr Emerson Eggerichs
– Book: Love & Respect
– Website: loveandrespect.com
- Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
– Website: lesandleslie.com
